Day 1: How to change habits
What motivates me to keep up with a habit?
Pretty much nothing, which is why it’s so hard to change them. I guess if there was one thing that motivates me, it’s if it improves and/or simplifies my life or makes me happy
When I want to quit, what can I tell myself to get me back on track?
This is good for me or for my son. This will make my life better. This will simplify things.
How do you think some of your bad habits were formed?
I get tired and depressed and into survival mode. Stuff I learned as a child.
Thinking of your future self, what habits do they have?
They eat well, are organized, has a system to stay on top of everything.
How can you incorporate habits of the person you want to become in your daily life now?
Start eating healthier, work on organizing and putting systems into action.
What habits are you proud of?
Pretty much none of them?
How are you going to incorporate these new habits without getting overwhelmed?
Thats easy. Start slow, not be hard on myself screwing up, but push myself to keep going.
What can you reward yourself with for completing your new daily habits?
I’m not sure to be honest. Good food? Yeah, goes against eating well. A prize or special present? Not if I’m broke… Maybe I’ll be able to think of something… Or if any of you read this, what do you suggest?
Day 2: How To Reach Your Goals
Is what I’m doing in my daily life bringing me closer or farther away from my goals?
Both. There are some things I do that take me farther away from them. Other things I do take me closer, but not as fast as I would like.
Am I happy with how I spend my time?
I’m not happy, so is it even relevant? Sometimes I’m happy with how I spend my time. Most of the time I’m not, at least not recently.
What steps can I take to get closer to where I want to be in the future?
Managing my time better would be one. But I think I need to start at a different place than that. I guess the 1st step would be to determine what and where I want to be.
What is one goal that scares me?
Pretty much all of them honestly. I have a larger fear of success than I do of failure. I have a fear of succeeding, having everything I want, then fucking it up for losing it. That is way worse than never having it.
What is one goal I am confident in?
None, honestly. I’m not confident about any of them. I’m not sure what I want.
Am I excited about my goals?
No, I’m afraid of them. I also don’t know what I want anymore. I’m back in survival mode. Everything is about survival.
What is one goal I can accomplish this week?
I can figure out what my goals are. I can make a list of habits I want and I can make a plan.
How can I make sure I stay on track towards achieving my goals?
Stay on top of them and stay healthy, I guess. If I knew how to do this I’d already be doing it. So, maybe I learn how to stay on track.
When I want to quit, what am I going to tell myself to get me to stay motivated?
Determination, I suppose. That the only way to have a better life and my son’s is to follow through improve my life.
How many times a year am I going to check in with my progress on my goals?
I’m not sure yet. It depends on the goal. The first ones will probably be small, so very often. Other ones, monthly or quarterly.
Who am I going to share my goals with to help keep me accountable?
My son keeps me on track. He protects me. Probably Paul, maybe someone else down the line.
Day 3: Managing Money
Are you happy with the ways you spend money?
What could you cut back on?
How many streams of income do you currently have?
What else could you do to create more?
Do you forgive yself for past money mistakes?
What have you learned about money so far?
What are your parents’ views on money? Did they influence yours?
How can you start practicing gratitude for the money you do have?
What are you going to tell yourself to avoid spending money in your savings account?
How are yu going to stop yourself from being influenced by others to spend?
Day 4: Finding Your Purpose in Life
What Do you feel your purpose is? Family, life, career?
Why are you here?
What do you want to be remembered for?
What kind of legacy do you want to leave?
What were you doing when you felt the most alive?
What are you motivated by?
What are you willing to sacrifice for?
Who inspires you?
What storeis inspire you?
If you feel that you are currently not living your purpose, how are you going to transition so you are?
Who can you talk to when you feel lost?
What fears do I need to manage?
What do I want to become?
Day 5: Living Your Truth
3 things you like about yourself
3 things you’re proud of
3 things that make you happy
3 affirmations you’ll tell yourself when feeling down
a list of people you’re grateful for