Ok, while I think I really need to do a deep dive on this, I really don’t have it in my tonight. I’m hoping a little of this will get things out of my system enough.
I know Brad has thought this is weird before, as well as some other people, maybe including my sister. Well I think most of her weirdness was Asshole related, but whatever.
I usually stay friends with my exes. They usually start as friends or at the very least good acquaintances. Or sometimes they are by referral. One of my friends friends. And in some cases it’s very hard to avoid them. I remember one night I went to 4 venues, saw 5 exes and 7 bands. That was a damn fine night LMFAO.
Anyway, yeah I stay friends with my exes. sometimes I revisit the relationship, sometimes its a safe drunken hook-up. Sometimes we’re just cool as hell.
I’ve always thought this was really normal and healthy. Honestly I still think it is for the most part. But…
Then it also bleeds into these non committed, committed relationships I have. Pette, Brad, Clayton, shit, most of my “serious” longer term relationships, the ones that last years or even decades. They are all non committed. They are friends with benefits.
The point here not delivering into my romantic history is this is how my mom was in her relationships. Right down to the “oh they are just friends” thing.
This is something I’m totally comfortable with. It feels like totally normal to me. I’ve often had relationships like this, or that start like this and either turn into something more or something less. And It’s what I saw my mom do. And as desperately as I’ve been trying to have a boyfriend so Colin would have a good male influence, and know how to have a healthy relationship, I’m doing the same thing….
Not to be clear, I never knew any of these guys were my mom’s friend with benefits. I only thought they were her friends or exes she was still friends with. Honestly I’m a little shook and I really need to talk to someone about this. I’d talk to Brad, but he’s asleep and busy.
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